Inappropriate behaviour -Sex Wars?

This current trend of ladies to accuse men of inappropriate behaviour at levels up to including rape has to me a sinister undercurrent. Yes some behaviour is definitely wrong and the men need to be punished. Not by social media but in a court. 

Let's be honest we are social animals have hormones drives and behaviours. This has evolved over thousands of years. Social media has only been around in a blink. Things will change. Meanwhile we are in dangerous territory, women alienating all men as ergo they are all potential rapists? and a danger to women! This is patently rubbish but a real danger. These women need to act immediately to bat back the sex pests, or report them. Not waiting decades. Also with historical child abuse what purpose is served by endlessly chasing dead personalities?  Yes it was wrong and it did happen but everyone's perspective changes over time and things may not be actually real.
Where should behaviour go now. Let's calm the Social Media down. It's too easy to condemn men by Facebook without real justice. Do women really want a world with no flirting, they do it too. Women manipulate men to achieve their goals, how do men fight back?

abuse is never nice

Sexual harassment is not funny but what about other office taunting? Not nice it's not office banter. People don't have to be nasty.

50 types of pornography

50 shades of pornographic.

This film 50 Shades of Grey - is much hyped recently. even Breakfast TV was "laughing" coyly about it.

OK You're an adult watch it if you want but I suggest DON'T - here's why, apart from it being a mediocre film.

Have they read the book, have any of them? How do these people reconcile their attitude to porn, what about the BBC - promoting it when children are undoubtedly watching? If its not PORN why is it rated 18?

It is a scandal and people (and BBC) should be ashamed.

In the same week a very good article in Saturday's Daily Mail by Sarah Vine highlighted how easy it is to get to hard core porn on the internet and our children are looking at it and being damaged for life by it. They can access stuff that tragically and irreversibly distorts their young minds in their formative years of their view of society. I know because I've seen it. I don't mean that I go surfing for porn, but in my job I have had to "investigate" employees that were circulating Porn via email. We had to collect the evidence, I had to "see" it to check what it was and compile it for management who ultimately dismissed the culprits including a manager.

Believe me some images are so vile that you don't want to see them, and having seen them you can't get them out of your mind even if you want to. I am pretty well balanced and tried to stay detached but it is hard.

If it involves children remember if they are shown in it it is not a victimless crime - these children are being abused, the viewers are ABUSING them too by proxy. 

If no one wanted to see this filth then the kids would not get abused.

That is what "pornography" means, actually we need a word meaning worse than pornography because some of this stuff is unbelievably corrupting. 

YOU DON'T WANT CHILDREN TO SEE IT.

WE MUST STOP IT..

Paedophiles viewing online porn IS as bad as child molestation

Amanda Plattell is right that John Grisham is wrong to defend his buddy,  she is also right saying "But isn’t that exactly what any man who accesses images of child abuse is — a pervert? They may not harm children themselves, but their search for images of younger and younger looking boys and girls implicitly supports an evil paedophile industry that does — and which trades the images for profits or for perverted pleasure. In legal terms, that makes the voyeurs complicit in the crime."

Then she is WRONG saying that

"while it may be true that not every man who seeks out underage pornography is a danger to children"

EVERY MAN who seeks out underage porn IS a danger to children.

How on earth does she think the Porn gets there? Children are abused to produce the PORN. IT is abuse by PROXY.

Why can't the police catch them all?

Sophisticated Internet technology can track everyones surfing habits from their computer to every porn site and they know exactly what you have looked at. From the ISP records they know who pays the Bills, so come on Police lets track them down. You don't even have to leave your comfy office and face the nasty criminals its like catching speeders - using CCTV and cameras.

NO EXCUSES.

Rolf Harris

I have to mention this.

No way am I condoning anything he's done - all abuse is horrid, despicable and a crime and must be punished. However everyone in this case are victims, even you and me! We were all lied to by this Man, loved his programs and songs etc. if only we'd known.

Now this is my point, why has it taken 30odd years for this to come out?

This has to be taken in context of the world 30years ago, it was wrong now and was wrong then, but why did the victims not come forward before now? If they had spoken out and he had been found out and punished 30 years ago how different things would be.

Now I'm not saying its not true but can these people be sure that they remember what he did and when? Yes I know they will say its Seared in my memory and is as real today as if it was yesterday. The mind can play tricks. Have you never dreamt something and then thought it was real or otherwise. My point is 2 fold, because of this surely we should put a time limit on bringing charges like this to trial - 30/20/10 years ? What do you think? Not to save the perpetrator but justice must be done. He has got away with it for 30 years. If he'd been stopped straight away think of the others who would have NOT been abused. Same with some other high profile cases. The problem here is US, society we still do not accept that these things happen - natural instinct is not to believe it. Who, Rolf Harris? - never! Yet the evidence is there.

We must bring it out and make a climate to allow the victims to report these things immediately. I don't mean next day, it does take time to understand what has happened. You go into shock, withdrawal, denial, fear etc. but there is a time when you can think about it and know it was a CRIME, wrong and needs reporting but they don't. WE MUST make this happen to stop it carrying on and there being more victims  - we owe it to our children. STOP these monsters!!

2nd thing, sentence lenient? Well he was tried on crimes under the law at the time, 30 years ago. Things were different then. Society changes.

It used to be OK to slap your children - now its not.
It used to be OK to drink and drive - now its not.
It used be the done thing to smoke - now its not.

See how society changes. Attitudes to drink driving have changed now and I can't really see anyone "getting away" with it - we just don't condone it, we'd shop our brother/mother/son etc.

So we must change our attitudes to "abuse" and teach our children how to "tell" on these people who do nasty/wrong things to them that they don't like. We must be open and let them speak about it and then the Police must be prepared to listen to them and take the details and deal with it. I've heard of reports that someone reports it and then a young PC turns up at the door with notebook and wants all the details. Does a teenage girl want to tell ALL the sordid details to a young copper. Who will probably then go and blab about it to his mates later in the Pub? Yes I know the Police are stretched but so what. Don't we all agree these crimes are serious and need dealing with, the victims (and remember everyone around them feels a victim and guilty by proxy) - how did I let this happen (to my child) after all we as parents are supposed to protect them but we have to trust people - we try our best. Hence I say these things must be dealt with straight away  not 30 years later. I know it will still happen people will have all sorts of reasons for not telling. We MUST try and change it though.

Please - to stop future victims.

However what are we to do about the filth available on the internet? These vile images Rolf got. Someone somewhere is making and posting the images. These too are abusers, as well as those who look. Everyone involved, even the ISPs who sit on there hands and say "we're not responsible we just provide internet", yes they have a responsibility, it can be done. Trace the perpetrators and tell the police.

We must STOP it.

Bbc dj sacked for a clarkson

David Lowe played a 1930's version of song "the Sun has got its hat on" which unfortunately contained that "n" word so he had to resign.

Remember Jeremy Clarkson used the dreaded "N" word - or did he. Well he wasn't sacked. (When I  say "N" word you know what I mean so why can't I say it?).

As I said before - its just a word. What is wrong with us now.

Yes racism is offensive as is any form of abuse /discrim ination but people have to get real.

Or are the Thought Police really stepping up their game?

This is rewriting history don't you think? No harm was intended so why take offence its just an expression.

Old Age Care - my solution

Worried about care in your old age, don’t worry the state WILL look after you.

Like Stuart Hall – confess to serious crime in your youth and they’ll detain you at HM Pleasure

FREE board and lodging!

Teacher runs away with Pupil

All this fuss over Jeremy Forrest and Megan Stammers running away to France?

Yes it was wrong and technically illegal "Child Abduction" - Megan is only 15, but she was willing.

He's now going to be a criminal and lose his job and career. Did they have Sex? If so he's also a child abuser.

However we read stories about under age sex daily, kids of 13/14 having babies and is the Father ever convicted? - no. Look at the Rochdale Sex Grooming issue - did Social Services and the police protect the girls? - no.

It seems to me that on this age we seem to accept that under age sex is really nothing to be bothered about, no harm done. Actually it is CHILD ABUSE! Unless the law protects these children where are we going to end up.

Under age sex ruins lives, 14 yr olds don't want kids - (well actually they do because then they get a "Benefits Meal ticket to a home and income).

Its all wrong isn't it?